Pavan(Pav) and Tom got married at Sprowston Manor on 20th August 2016. As Pav is from Norwich, Norfolk and Tom is from the Peak District, they opted to marry near Pav’s home. Whilst Pav had a predominantly Sikh upbringing and Tom being an Atheist, they opted for a lovely civil ceremony. Over to the couple to tell us more about how they met and about their big day.
How they met + the proposal
We had known each other for quite a while before we got together as we had a very good mutual friend, who was Tom’s best (wo)man at the wedding. In regards to the proposal Tom had organised a lovely day out in London, where Pav got treated to her favourite breakfast (eggs royale), cocktails and dinner in a fancy french restaurant in London follow by a show in London.
For Pav, it was a no-brainer that she wanted to get married in her home county of Norfolk. However, she also had to take her significantly larger number family and friends into consideration we were looking at venues. We made a list of all the people we wanted to be at the wedding and looked at venues that would be able to accommodate this number (and there’s are very few venues in Norfolk which fit the bill!).
As both Pav and Tom live in London, Pav’s dad massively helped in finding and securing a date at Sprowston Manor, which was perfect as Pav’s parents don’t live too far away form there so it made it all the more more convenient.
I spent hours online looking for potential outfits for the big day. It did feel like a massive gamble buying something online without having tried it on, but the gamble paid off with both outfits picked for the day and I was over the moon with both choices.
In the morning, I wore an outfit by Payal Singhal – I loved pastel colours and the simplicity of the piece as well as the gorgeous blush pink and mint green colours.
I really wanted my reception outfit to be the complete opposite of my morning outfit and opted for a piece by Priyanka Singh, which was bright pink and coral, included mirror work (a favourite of mine) as well as a two-tone netting layers at the bottom which looked amazing when walking. The contrasting ash colour dupatta helped tone the piece down somewhat!
The groom’s outfit
Tom spent far less time searching for his outfit(!) It was literally a case of googling ‘sherwani hire’ and picking the one he liked best. I didn’t want him to wear something he didn’t feel comfortable in and amazingly he picked the “Devan” sherwani which just happened to complement my lehenga beautifully. In the afternoon, he wore a dark teal coloured suit he had tailored to fit by Paul Smith.
Groomsmen/bridesmaids outfit and accessory details
We were fairly relaxed about what our bridal party worse as we wanted everyone to feel comfortable on the day. I think Tom must have sent out some sort of memo to the ushers and to Twist (the Best Woman) about wearing navy as this is what they did (Twist looked phenomenal in her full length slit dress).
I went out for a boozy brunch with my bridesmaids a few months before the wedding and had shortlisted a few sarees which I had like the look of, which ranged in colour from pink, green, orange and just about every other colour under the sun. On the day, I showed them the options and they all like the turquoise one best, which again, worked out brilliantly.
I still can’t quite get over how we all seemed to match in with each other on the day itself and I had not even appreciated this fact until we got our wonderful photos from Karen Fuller!
Wedding theme or colours
The only theme I had in mind was colour. And that I wanted people to be relaxed and have fun. To help with this, Tom’s sister arranged from some garden games during canapés which were enjoyed by several guests and we loved that both families were able to intermingle during this time.
The table names were derived from vintage Bollywood movies – I love the artwork and tried to locate as many as I could online before editing the pictures on my mac and having them printed at a local print shop.
Food and catering
The food and catering was provided by Lady Chutney’s who travelled up to Norfolk from Kent. I expected the food to be good, but on the day it surpassed even my high expectations! Many of our guests stated they enjoyed the food, which for an indian family, is high praise indeed!
We both love different styles of music and this was always going to be an important part of the day. in the morning, we had a sitar and tabla player who Pav’s dad found through British Asian Music – the instruments were beautifully played and Pav walked down the aisle to a traditional raga.
In the evening, we had DJ Aaron from 2LDJs….I really cannot rate Aaron highly enough as music can make or break a party and he really got the mood bang on. Everyone got involved and he even coordinated a boys v girls dance off which was great fun. He had also been super helpful prior to the wedding and we had forwarded a playlist of music which he had on hand in case on any requests.
Lily from Tiger Lillies florists in Norwich provided the flowers for the day. Pav’s mum told her about Lily and she really listened to what Pav’s requirements were when styling the bouquets, table settings and button holes (the main requirement was colour..and lots of it! She even made flower garlands for Tom and Pav to exchange on the day which she had never done before.
Favourite part of the day
There were so many wonderful moments, but the best for both of us has to be when we made our entrance as husband and wife in our reception outfits before the sit down meal. We had chosen ‘London Thumakda’ from the movie ‘Queen’ as our entrance song……it has a really good beat and is impossible not to dance to. As a result, we broke into a spontaneous dance at the front of the marquee and included our parents and grandparents, which made for a special part of the day.
The other amazing part of the day was just how many people had made the effort to come to our wedding – one of Pav’s best friends had flown from Australia for a week just so she could attend which was phenomenal and a couple of others had popped back from there holiday for the weekend to attend – we were really blown away by the effort our guests went through.
Easiest part of wedding planning
Having a dad who is as super organised as I am and loves spreadsheets. Being organised makes everything so much more manageable.
Also, knowing that you have amazingly supportive family and friends…..there were events going on at Pav’s house the whole week before and everyone just pulled together and somehow got things done!
And finally, Karen – our photographer. She was amazing at helping us to think about the order of events and how the day would pan out which really helped to structure the day and help things run smoothly.
Hardest part of wedding planning
Having a mum who does not know what a spreadsheet is and thrives on chaos! But this does make the whole experience more fun (in an strange way!). Also, constructing a table plan for 300 guests for the sit down dinner – not something we want to do again anytime soon! (though tableplanner.com was a lifesaver!)
Is it harder to plan a wedding when the couples are from different faiths/culture etc?
Nope – because Tom went with the flow, took everything in his stride and just let Pav get on with it!
Advice to give to other multicultural couples
Enjoy every part of the day and revel in the differences everyone brings to the wedding. Definitely makes it more fun – Tom has commented that he has never seen his dad let loose like he did at our wedding – I think bhangra brings out the best in everyone!
Photography: Fuller Photography
Venue: Sprowston Manor
Bridal lengha – ceremony: Payal Singhal
Hair by Tracey Ward
Groom’s sherwani: Sherwani King
Groom’s suit: Paul Smith
Bridal party outfits: Omsara
Catering: Lady Chutneys
Sitar and tabla player: Asian British Music
Flowers: Tiger Lillies florists