Carson and Vinisha are both from Washington DC. Carson (raised Catholic) grew up in Tacoma WA and Vinisha (Gujarati Hindu) grew up in Vadodara, India and Rochester Minnesota. They first met at the train station, when Carson asked her what she was reading, while waiting for the Metro Train in Washington DC. They began chatting and the rest is history.
Carson prepared Vinisha’s favorite dish, a homemade heap of nachos. He proposed with a sapphire ring that he designed with a local jewellery maker Lawrence Miller. The ring has a lotus flower from the symbol of Lakshmi and in middle of the flower is a sapphire that he hand selected.
The Wedding Day
The venue was the backyard of Carson’s sister, Gina and Joshua Faulk, in Gig Harbour, Washington. It looks over a beautiful bay.
The dress was bought online at Band baja baraat. It was stitched at Vinisha’s mom’s tailor, Ami Tailors, Anand Gujarat India. The tailor had also stitched the mom’s dress nearly 30 years ago.
Family and friends met at an open plot down the road from the house and started the baraat to the house. Carson rode in his beautiful 1965 GMC red pick up truck that he had revived with his dad as a teenager.
Vinisha’s family welcomed the group at the house and everyone walked down the path to behind the house. Gina had purchased some beautiful lanterns on Etsy that she hung over the path.
In the backyard, Carson’s dad had created the Mandap, out of a gazebo frame he got at a yard sale. Carson’s mom purchased several saris from various Indian stories in Kent, Washington and draped over the frame to make the Mandap.
The sculptures around the mandap were created by Carson’s dad as well.
White chairs were set up to face the mandap and on those chair, Vinisha’s cousins and friends places baskets of flower petals. The baskets were purchased at Michael’s and decorated at home by April Borrilo and Vinisha’s cousins.
Carson’s best friend Connor McCarthy officiated the ceremony.
Carson and Vinisha exchanges garlands from Hindu tradition and rings from American traditions.
The garlands were homemade by family friends Yamini and Sri Devi Suresh. Vinisha purchased a floral on Amazon.com and Carson’s mom, Judi Murdach, called the local flower shops ahead of time to set aside all the white ‘mums. Vinisha’s cousins picked them up the night before the wedding, and the garlands were strung.
The dance floor was also DIY. The Murdach men purchased a few sheets of plywood and put the floor together in the yard early morning.
Wedding was put together very organically, so no theme was selected. In the end the look came out to be bright fall colors.
Baraat music was live created by Carson’s brother Clay Murdach and Carson’s nephews. Clay is part of 2 bands out of Port Angeles, Ant Bath and The Artichoke Project. Everyone brought their own instruments to play and Clay led the procession. Even some of the neighborhood kids joined the band. A spotify homemade playlist was used for the evening party.
The flowers were provided by family friends Larry and Sherilyn Swift, Olympia Wa. The couple went to a friend’s dahlia farm and fresh cut the flowers in the early morning day before the wedding.
The ceremony and traditions (if any)
Although the ceremony was a civil service, we wanted to have a small Hindu part in it. So before exchanging our vows, Vinisha’s family performed a small Ganesh pooja. A typical ceremony before any auspicious activity.
Favourite part of the day
Bride: When I arrived at the venue I saw the whole look put together by different family and friends. It was amazing and I was in awe and felt so loved and supported by our families from both sides.
Easiest part of wedding planning
The easiest part of the wedding wedding was picking out my dress. My mom saw the dress online and she organized the rest of the stitching and look.
Hardest part of wedding planning
The hardest part of the wedding was communicating to our family members from both cultures what traditional wedding elements were we borrowing from our each of cultures, what elements were being modified, etc. Because we mixed elements of both of our cultures into the ceremony, we spent a lot of time on the phone explaining them.
For example, my father-in-law was building the mandap for us, but we were not actually doing the full Hindu ceremony under it. So first I explained to him what the mandap was, and then sent him some pictures I found online of Mandaps for Hindu ceremonies. This led to some confusion and I had to explain that unlike traditional mandaps, this one can be much smaller because instead of full Hindu ceremony, we would be just standing under it to exchange our vows.
Is it harder to plan a wedding when the couples are from different faiths/culture etc
I think it is definitely hard to plan a wedding when there are different cultures and faiths involved. The most important thing to recognize is that because of our different backgrounds, so when the planning starts all the involved parties are probably not on the same page.
It’s good to talk to everyone and set the expectations and vision from the beginning to avoid any pain points later. For example, everyone wanted Indian food but the Mudachs were thinking along the lines of their love for butter chicken and Bhatias are vegetarian, so talked about it with our families and agreed to only have vegetarian food.
Photography: Petersen Pictures Pictures
Engagement ring: Lawrence Miller
Decor: April Borrilo
Dress: Band baja baraat
Groom’s outfit: Benzer World
Food: Local Restaurant
Catering staff: India Mahal