Finally! I get to blog about my first multicultural same-sex wedding and it’s incredible. The two grooms Joe and Tarak met online at Match.com and went from there. Joe proposed to Tarak one morning in mid-November last year. He used their chocolate lab, Lily, to carry the ring in after her morning walk. Tarak told me:
How could I say no after proposal like this?!
The only obstacles they had to overcome when planning their wedding was the normal overwhelming nature of planning a big event. This consisted of unexpected glitches such as changing guest lists and rising costs. Definitely the two most common occurrences in wedding planning.
Is it harder to plan a wedding when the couples are from different faiths/culture etc?
For us, it worked out fairly easily. We found clergy willing to work with us and our faith backgrounds. Both were willing to work with the other on various components of the ceremony that were not part of their faith tradition.
How did you both decide on what you wanted for your wedding?
We determined to take what we considered the best from each of our traditions (even if not part of a wedding ceremony – like our use of Indian umbrellas) and combine them into a workable ceremony. We also knew that we didn’t want the ceremony to take three or four hours. Our goal was honouring our traditions and celebrating the religious aspects of our faiths while not burdening guests with an overwhelmingly religious ceremony.
The fact that they picked and chose element to combine into one ceremony is the best part of fusion weddings. They both honoured each others faiths beautifully. Tarak is Hindu and Joe is Cherokee. The Cherokee are a Native American tribe indigenous to the Southeastern United States (principally Georgia, Tennessee, North Carolina and South Carolina). They speak Cherokee, an Iroquoian language. In the 19th century, historians and ethnographers recorded their oral tradition that told of the tribe having migrated south in ancient times from the Great Lakes region, where other Iroquoian-speaking peoples were.
Tarak wears a Sherwani – Indian attire for males and Joe wears traditional Cherokee clothing. Cutie!
Advice for other multicultural couples?
Short and simple. Patience, compromise and understanding. It will all work out…
AThe prettiest mandap – adore the orange and cream flowers and the decor.
Wedding Planner & Venue: Bloomfield Events
Caterer & Bartending Service: Girl & the Fig
Dessert Table: Patisserie Angelica
Rentals: Wine Country Party Rentals & Encore Events Rentals
Mandap: – Vivah Decoration
Photographer: Suzanne Karp
DJ: Music Mantra
Band / Live Music: Cocktails and Dinner – Mom & Daughter – Deborah Kuhl – 963 Temple Drive, Pacheco, CA
Photo Booth: Das Bus