2017 continues to see the popularity of Asian couples having civil ceremonies instead of or alongside their respective religious ceremonies. Primarily for multicultural couples, some opt to keep religion out of it completely while others choose to incorporate a few traditions. Two people marrying from different faiths can make wedding planning difficult in trying to maintain all religious wedding traditions so civil ceremonies is the winning choice. This then allows the couple to have a cultural wedding reception, just like Indie and Rav did.
Indie and Rav met through a mutual friend at her birthday in London. Rav had already seen photos of Indie and asked about her. The dutch courage was out after a few drinks and they got talking. Over to Indie to tell us more about her wedding day.
He threw me off the entire year saying he wasn’t sure about getting married or not in a rush, when secretly he had been planning a proposal on our holiday to Turkey that October! He went down on one knee (to my complete surprise) on a turtle beach off the Dalyan river. My cousin and his girlfriend who were with us captured it all.
The Ceremony and Traditions (if any)
We had a civil ceremony followed by an Indian style reception. We both had some traditions prior to the wedding in keeping with our respective cultures and religions. Our favourite part of the day was the reception without all our family and friends enjoying themselves!
Easiest Part of Wedding Planning
Discussing (at length) the ideas and things we wanted and why. Not just throwing things out there. We’re both lucky to be creative so we designed and sourced most things ourselves. Also, friends will always be much more helpful than family since they just want to help and not provide their opinion at every point! So in short, communication and support from your nearest and dearest!
Hardest part of Wedding Planning
Guests! There has to be a boundary of when to stop inviting, who to invite and when. You can’t keep everyone happy and neither should you have to.
Advise to other multicultural couples
We were lucky to have pretty much full control over our wedding planning and who we invited. But I know some might not have this. We both believed we had to keep the wedding true to ourselves and not fulfil religious or cultural traditions if we weren’t fully invested in it or had full belief.
This might not have been something both parents would have wanted but they tried to understand that it was about us two being happy. If you can meet halfway that could be the difference in completely alienating the parents or family. As long you both respect each others needs or beliefs, there is always a way to work it in.
Photography: Sailesh Photography
Venue: Tewin Bury farm hotel
Dress: Skirt by Coast and top by designer and friend Haizhen Wang
Groom’s Outfit: ASOS
Food & Catering including drinks: Amore banqueting
Entertainment: AK Musik
Flowers: Local florist
Lighting: Make Believe
Hair & make up: Boatias Hair