Today’s wedding is the wedding of Yasemin and Sean who got married at Poets House in Ely. I love getting wedding submissions where they are held near my home town. Let’s dig right in to how they met…
How they met
We met through our best friends, John and Lucinda (one of my bridesmaids). John and Sean play rugby together. John had been threatening to set me up with Sean over 5 years ago, I kept telling him to go away. He’d been nagging me about making more time to date and enjoy myself. I’m a nurse and at the time I worked all sorts of antisocial shifts.
Then during a May bank holiday about 4 years ago, when I actually got a more sociable job, he invited Sean and our friend Alex over for a tapas dinner party. Where I used to regularly be the third wheel to Luce and John’s Saturday Date Nights! I remember he casually dropped the line that he had invited some rugby friends over for dinner (he suddenly decided he was going to cook for us girls that day!) and he suggested that I might want to put some eyeliner on! Back then I wouldn’t go anywhere without my eyeliner! I took this as a ‘someone handsome is coming over’ ‘make yourself look presentable’ and so I did! We’ve been inseparable ever since, minus the kohl eyeliner.
From Sean’s perspective: The plan was to keep Yasemin away from the flat at all costs. The first attempt was to recruit Lucinda to take her out for dinner and keep her movements tracked. Of course Yasemin cancels as she’s ‘too tired’ which lead to the second recruitment of Yesim (Yasemin’s twin sister) who did a great job of policing all movements including shepherding all the way from the station to avoid the flat.
In the meantime I told Yasemin that I was out on the lash (lad) and I wouldn’t be back until late so I had time to decorate the flat. When all was done I sent a text saying that I was chundering all over the flat which meant nurse Yasemin left instantly to get to the flat. When she opened the door I had our song playing (Yiruma River Flows In You) and a candle lit pathway leading to me where I proposed. This lead to a ridiculous 2 minutes of crying where she didn’t answer the question but finally said yes after I told her my knee was hurting.
Poets House, Ely Cambridgeshire. Its a beautiful hotel with a relaxed atmosphere. Perfect for a smaller wedding, we only had 75 guests in the end (55 for the day and 20 more friends joining us for the evening). Which is small by Turkish standards. Sean really wanted a venue that was linked into one of our backgrounds. It was a toss up between a beach wedding in Turkey or a more traditional English wedding. We ended up picking Poets House as we fell in love with the venue and it was also much less stressful organising a wedding closer to home in the time we had.
The dress was from the designer Ronald Joyce, bought from the same wedding dress shop as my mother’s from 30 years ago! My veil was from my sister as my something borrowed, my pearl necklace is an heirloom from my late grandmother as my something old and my something blue were the little baby blue crystals on my shoes. My hair vine was from Amazon!
The groom’s outfit was tailor made from Moss Bros, including his shirt. Sean is 6ft4 so he needed a tailored suit!
Groomsmen & bridesmaids outfit and accessory details
The boys – Moss Bros – also tailor made, they’re all so tall! The four bridesmaid dresses were from Two Birds, and my sister’s dress, my maid of honour, was from House of Fraser. I also gifted the girls personalised pearl and rose gold bracelets from Not On The High Street. The boys ties were from TKMaxx. Sean’s from T.M Lewin. Our flower girl and page boy outfits were from John Lewis.
Wedding theme or colours if any
We didn’t have a theme or a specific pick of colours. I ended up with mixed metals just like my engagement ring and a range of colours. This included a wine/burgundy and rose pinks. We named all our tables after our favourite distilleries in Islay, Scotland – with pictures of the distilleries as table cards. We also made whisky bottle fairy lights for the outside. We love whisky and our trip to Islay a few years ago was one of our best holidays to date!
We used the same DJ & Percussionist from my sister’s wedding. Ceyhan and Osman from London, Bizim dj. They are incredible and specialise in multicultural weddings. So it was perfect for us.
MOTHER IN LAW!!! We ordered our flowers wholesale from Holland, they arrived approximately 3 or 4 days before the wedding. We then spent days in absolute military organisation putting them all together.
The ceremony and traditions (if any)
We had small touches of my Turkish culture as the wedding was very much traditionally British. But our musicians were Turkish we was really important to us both. My mother in law very thoughtfully added tulips to my bouquet and flowers for the venue as they are the national flowers of Turkey. I obviously had a very Turkish Henna Party organised by my mother the weekend before the wedding. With a traditional Turkish henna ceremony.
Favourite part of the day
Finally saying I do! We were both desperate to get it over and done with so we could just relax. I remember laughing all the way down the isle as I couldn’t believe it was actually happening. We organised our wedding in less then four months so it was extremely intense leading up to it. We couldn’t be happier to be announced husband and wife so we could just enjoy the rest of the day. What made it even more great was that the sun came out after a terrible week of weather. We couldn’t believe our luck at how wonderful and sunny the day was.
Easiest part of wedding planning
To be honest the easiest part of the wedding was the day itself. It went really smoothly and by that point we were so glad the day itself had actually arrived it was all just a big party! We had lots of help from our parents, we couldn’t have done it without them.
Hardest part of wedding planning
Planning a wedding in four months and deciding which guests we were going to have! We had a relatively small wedding by Turkish standards so we had to be really strict with our guest list.
Is it harder to plan a wedding when the couples are from different faiths/culture etc
For us it was about embracing our differences and being proud of who we are. We can see for others it might be but we’re extremely lucky that our families get on so well. Neither side have particularly strong views other than instilling love and respect for each other.
Advice to give to other multicultural couples – be proud of who you are! And who you are as a couple.
Photography: Nathalie Delente
Venue: Poets House
Dress: Ronald Joyce
Shoes: Carvela from Selfridges
Suits: Moss Bros
Ties: TKMaxx T.M Lewin
Bridesmaids dresses: Two Birds
Bridesmaids accessories: Not On The High Street
Hair: Vicki Lord
Make up: Yesim Rickards (my twin sister! & maid of honour)
Food and catering: All drinks and catering were provided from Poets House
DJ: Bizim dj
Grooms & groomsmen outfits: Moss Bros