Today I have the lovely wedding of Naomi and Fahran, it’s such a sweet one, so let’s just jump right in, all words from the bride – Naomi.
Fahran is from Kent and I am from Lincolnshire. We met at university in Sheffield where we both studied for the same degree, we got together just after we graduated. Fahran is a Muslim, his parents are both from Mauritius. I am Christian from a white British background.
Fahran asked my dad’s permission before he proposed and then took me to a beach where I used to go with my family as a child and wrote ‘will you marry me’ in the sand ☺ it was the day before my 30th birthday, I was over the moon!
We decided to get married in Sheffield where we had lived ever since we got together. It was really important to both of us to include elements of both of our faiths within the ceremony so we did some research and found a local interfaith marriage celebrant. We worked with Jan (our celebrant) and managed to come up with a ceremony we were both really happy with. Fahran’s Dad read some traditional Islamic prayers before the ceremony at the venue with Fahran and I know some of our guests who arrived early really liked being able to be a part of that when they probably hadn’t experienced anything like it before.
For us we like to celebrate the similarities between our faiths even though we believe different things and we really felt like we were able to do this through our ceremony.
We had a separate legal ceremony the week before our wedding at Sheffield Registry Office to enable us to include the religious elements in our ‘proper’ wedding. We kept this as small as possible and just had 2 friends with us to act as witnesses. We held our wedding at Wood Lane Countryside Centre in Sheffield.
My dress was by Pronovias and I got it from a supplier near my parents house. It was nothing like I thought I would choose but was the first dress I tried on and I absolutely loved it. I had traditional bridal henna done on my hands and feet and my bridesmaids also had henna on their hands. My shoes were from Kurt Geiger. I did my own make up and one of my bridesmaids did my hair which was amazing.
My bridesmaids all chose their own dresses, the only stipulation was that they had to be blue and they all looked fab. Fahran wore a traditional sherwani for the ceremony which we bought on Green Street in East Ham. He changed into his Moss Bros Bespoke suit for the reception (what a diva!). I can’t really remember when we decided on a blue theme but we were so pleased when we got the photos because the colours looked so beautiful.
The catering was provided by Barretts Bespoke Catering, we had a bbq which was all halal to cater for our Muslim guests. We did have alcohol served which we provided ourselves and we organised our seating plan so that there were alcohol-free tables.
We made it clear when we sent our invitations out that it would be an interfaith ceremony and that all food would be halal but that alcohol would also be served at the reception. This meant that there were quite a few family and friends from Fahran’s side that chose not to attend. We knew that this would probably be the case but it was important to us to have our wedding exactly how we wanted it and not to compromise to try and please other people.
We bought our flowers from a flower farm in the Peak District, they were delivered in buckets the day before the wedding and the bridesmaids and I made up our own bouquets on the morning of the wedding. We also put flowers around the venue and on the reception tables in jam jars.
We decorated the venue with flowers and fairy lights and my Mum made us some personalised bunting which we hung from the beams. You can see this in some of the photos and it was such a lovely touch.
The venue was originally a farm and is made up of 2 separate barns. We used the second barn as a cake room – lots of our guests made cakes and we laid them all out in here with tea and coffee urns and vintage china cups and saucers.
My Mum made our wedding cake cupcakes and they were iced to look like hydrangeas. I love the photos of them, all he colours look fantastic!
We made playlists for each part of the day and used a laptop connected to a speaker system for the music.
We got our first ‘sneak peak’ at one of our photos, from Kate Waters Photography, when we were on our honeymoon and we couldn’t wait to see the rest! When we got them we couldn’t stop looking at them, they brought back all the great memories from the day and captured it all perfectly. For me it was lovely to see photos of everything that happened before I arrived and also photos from throughout the day which captured things we weren’t even aware of at the time.
Favourite part of the day
I really can’t pick a favourite part of the day, I loved every minute of it!
The hardest part of planning was probably trying to cater for everyone and have the wedding we wanted. We knew from the start that we wanted everyone together on one day, not any kind of separate celebrations to cater for our different guests. It probably would have easier to do that and would have kept more people happy but we felt really strongly that our wedding should be a reflection of our relationship and incorporate both of our faiths and traditions.
The easiest part of planning was the bridesmaids/best man outfits as they all chose their own!
My only advice would be to stay true to yourself, don’t do things you don’t want to just to please other people.
Photography: Kate Waters Photography
Flowers: Hollow Meadow Flowers
Wedding dress: Pronovias from Wellbert Bridal
Venue: Wood Lane Countryside Centre
Caterer: Barretts Bespoke Catering
Groom’s suit: Moss Bros
Bride’s shoes: Kurt Geiger
Henna artist: Primrose Henna
Sherwani: From Green Street