Today’s couple are Trish and Dustin. Trish is first generation Filipino and Dustin is 4th generation German and Swiss. They met as they were both about to graduate from the University of Illinois in 2010. As they spent more time together they were very drawn to each other. They both had a love for people and want to grab every opportunity the world has to offer. Just over five years after they met, he got down on one knee.
After scouting a number of different spots around Chicago, Dustin found the perfect spot where he wanted to pop the question, the Kinzie Street bridge. The only problem was that the two didn’t go to that part of Chicago very often, and he needed a reason for the both of them to venture there. Additionally, he wasn’t sure how he was going to get them to walk across the bridge without tipping her off.
After hearing a few suggestions from friends, Dustin made plans for dinner at a restaurant around the area. On the way there, he intentionally had the cab driver drop them off in the wrong location so that they would need to walk across the bridge. After the cab dropped the couple off, Trish looked around and questioned where they were. Dustin then pulled out his phone, pretending to look up where they needed to go.
They were already running late for their reservations, and the previous weekend they had also gotten lost in St. Louis due to Dustin’s navigation, so naturally, this did not go over well. Trish blew up and began to rant about how bad he was with directions and asked why they are always getting lost.
While trying to hide back a smile Dustin explained that he wasn’t that bad with directions, of which she immediately disagreed. They continued to walk towards the restaurant and finally got to the bridge. Changing the subject, he spoke of how much he loved her & all he wanted to do was to make her happy for the rest of his life. He turned her around, got down on one knee and asked the girl of his dreams to be his wife!
Later that night, the two would go to a second restaurant, where Dustin had arranged even another surprise – all of their closet friends, anxiously waiting to congratulate and celebrate with the newly engaged couple!
It was the perfect night
Wedding Planning Obstacles
Some of the unique obstacles we had were that Trish is first generation Filipino and the ideas of how our own ideas of how the ceremony and reception would go had to be adjusted in order to work with both families. Trish was raised Catholic and is Filipino, Dustin was raised Christian. We had to work with both of our ideas of how the ceremony would go and which traditions would be incorporated from both sides.
Wedding Planning Decisions
It was compromise the entire way. We sat down and discussed what parts and traditions were really important to us, and also sought guidance from both of our parents. There was a little push back for some smaller details but overall it was our wedding, and we made the decisions.
Advice to other multicultural couples
Like anything, it really comes down to communication. Hopefully the couple has thought through what is important to each of them, and where they can compromise. We had a unique ceremony. It was not in a church and we had Dustin’s Dad, who is a minister, give the service. We were also able to incorporate Filipino traditions into the ceremony. In our own way, we were able to accommodate both the bride and groom’s sides. You will need to work with each other and your parents, hopefully they aren’t too stubborn.
Photography: Slack Photography2