From the bride:
Shajay and I met at the Architectural Association in London where we both studied, he is from India and I am Mexican. Initially we wanted to have two ceremonies one in each country but after getting the costs and seeing the logistics of planning it we decided to settle for a single wedding ceremony in London, which was the place where we met and coincidentally is exactly half way between India and Mexico. I am from a very big family but all of them agreed to come and at the end we had friends flying from over 12 different countries for our wedding.
How he proposed
Shajay invited me to a bar in the top of a tower in the City and proposed over some champagne overlooking the city lights, for us was a good decision to hold the ceremony in London because it is a very big part of our story.
It was difficult to find a venue that we both liked and had some sort of meaning but the vaults at the RSA totally captivated us! The RSA salons are very beautiful with their different styles and we didn’t want to over decorate it, we choose red tulips for the centre of each table and very nice white pantone chairs that gave it a very natural feeling that we loved.
Our families are not very traditional which was very helpful when organising the event as we were free to make it only about our ideas, we tried to include subtle details from both our cultures on the food, drinks and colours but I think it was because that is part of who we are more than in an effort to do it. And also because my family agreed to fly with 15+ bottles of my favourite mezcal to the UK! Also Shajays family we had a mix of Mexican and indian sweets. We wanted to give a gift to our guests that reflected us so we gave them a mix of black & red Mexican and indian spices in glass test tubes to take home.
Multicultural Wedding Planning Advice
After this experience I think it is generally difficult to plan a wedding, we luckily found a middle ground in terms of location, which also made a lot of the negotiations easier as it was no ones territory, but we did try to be inclusive and sensitive to both our cultures and families. For multicultural couples I will advice to do your wedding in neutral territory and include subtle details from both cultures so it doesn’t become gimmicky but really keeps your essence.
Dress: I really wanted a boho feeling for the wedding and finding a dress was complicated specially as my mom had some expectations for a princess looking dress but luckily I found a yolancris dress that we both fully loved and it even included some animal print!!
The headpiece: Gilliam million in teddington absolutely brilliant and totally got my ideas and my style made a fantastic head band as I didn’t want to wear a traditional veil.
Hair & Make Up: Elbie van Eeden who agreed to straighten my hair only to curl it again!
Bride’s Shoes: couldn’t help myself and got a pair of glittery jimmy choos!
Groom’s Suit: Shajay wore a suit by Paul Smith
Photography: Fantastic Steve Gerrard (not the football player)
Catering: During the reception we had a stall with very delicious street indian food to keep everyone sober and partying until late