Aneela and Rehaan are both from Huddersfield and are now married and living in London. Let’s rewind to how they first met. They had known each other since college but only feel for each other several years later over coffee discussing Aneela’s CV! Reehan proposed when they were alone in the beautiful Derbyshire countryside on a hot summer’s day. Of course coming from an Asian heritage meant a big engagement party had to follow!
Our wedding was a blend of culture it was a learning experience and we would like to share
The wedding was a mammoth event, with several days leading up to the actual wedding/Nikkah at Oulton Hall on 30 August 2014. The following day was the Walima which was held at Leeds Royal Armouries. It truly was a blur but it was filled with nervousness, anticipation and of course happiness. The wedding reflected Aneela’s dual heritage background and was truly a melting pot of culture and tradition.
Wedding Planning Obstacles
“Coming from different family backgrounds meant there were a lot of conflicting expectations of what the wedding day was supposed to be like, religiously and also the format so there were many months of negotiation. This at times was extremely stressful but as a couple we tried to keep a balance and have our own stamp on the day.”
Is it harder to plan a wedding when the couples are from different faiths/culture etc?
“It is much harder to plan a wedding when the couple are from different cultures as each family wants the day to run in a different way and the couple are often caught in the middle. Also, each generation will have a different idea of what they want compared to their parents. Both Rehaan and I are Muslim however, I am from a dual heritage background and our families are very different with his far more traditional. For example, Rehaan’s family preferred a mosque ceremony with men and women separate whereas my family preferred the ceremony in front of all their guests and not in the mosque. So there was a lot of back and forth in the wedding planning. It was all okay on the day though!”
Advice to give to other multicultural couples
- The most important thing is that you and your partner are happy on the big day and your wedding reflects you as a couple.
- Try and put your own stamp (as a couple) on the day
- Not everything is as bigger deal as it seems when you are planning, put things into context.
- Our photographer Bhavna Barratt was chosen because she understood multicultural weddings having had one herself, it is good to have people who understand the cultures they are working with and can adapt their style accordingly
Wedding day shoes: Hobbs
Wedding day dress: Nicole spose wedding dress, dupatta and embroidery: bespoke dress
Walima shoes: Jimmy Choo
Walima Dress: Ranis of Bradford
Photographer: Bhavna Barratt
Wedding/Nikkah: Oulton Hall, Leeds
Walima: Leeds Royal Armouries