At the weekend, I was shopping with my friend and we were discussing content. Google, facebook and readers all want good content. I admitted I was slacking with my content, with having writers block and no weddings to blog about that week. It’s constantly on the back of my mind - no blog posts this week, slacking, come on blog something worth reading about. Then we got talking about why I started the blog, as you may know if you’ve been on my about me page, to provide a blog highlighting beautiful multicultural weddings. So the reason behind this is, I had only been to Sikh weddings and civil ceremonies, I didn’t know how to combine the two! Especially for Sikh weddings, it’s traditional to get married where the bride and her family live.
But dilemma, what if you’re not part of the ‘Indian community’, you’ve no family around where you live, they’re all based over 1-2 hours away.
Would they come to my pre-wedding celebrations?
Where would they stay?
How would you accommodate this so it’s not hassle for them?
Then if you want to have a multicultural wedding with two ceremonies, how would that work?
Do the Gurdwara’s where you live even allow non-Sikhs to get married in a Gurdwara?
If so, would you have the Sikh wedding one day and then the civil ceremony another day?
Indian weddings are usually extravagant affairs where you invite everyone to the ceremony and the reception. Civil ceremonies are usually the opposite where you invite close family and friends to the ceremony and wedding breakfast, then the rest of your guest list to the evening reception.
Thus, if you’re combining the two ceremonies, how does this work?
If money is tight and you want to save costs, how do you resolve this?
What about the food to accommodate for both sides of the families from different cultures?
In addition to the music too, combine the two together?
At that moment you can begin to question the actual guest list. You may have a very large family and naturally you’d want to invite them all to come, but it could be the opposite for the other half. He has a small close family, therefore would prefer an intimate wedding…okay calm.
Yes - remember below - that you’re not trying to impress a room full of people….
And breathe. So I’m writing this post because I’d love help from the SWB readers to help others in similar situations when it comes to planning their wedding. If we can tackle these questions (and maybe more I’ve missed out), I KNOW it will be so beneficial! Ergo, I urge you to voice your opinion and leave a comment, email, tweet etc if you can help in any way at all.
*Featured image is my cousin - view her Sikh and Christian wedding here