When I meet up with old and new friends, we always discuss the blog. Obviously. Real life multicultural couples in fact. They always like to tell me about these couples and their stories. How they met – the nice part. Then the hard part of how they told their families about their partners. In every scenario, we all know each family is different. Their reactions are different. If they were scared of telling their dad about their partner (of a different faith or culture), it could be their mum’s reaction that surprises them the most.
Dealing with these reactions is probably the scariest part of telling your parents. Believe me, I know. I was crying, shaking and couldn’t get my words out when telling my dad about my own partner of a different faith. It was emotional but a heavy weight was lifted off my shoulders once it was out in the open. Read my dad’s advice of how to tell your parents about your interfaith relationship here.
When I hear about these stories, I am proud. I’m proud that we live in a society where this generation are brave enough to fall in love for themselves. They are going against what’s ‘expected from them by their parents’ and falling in love with someone despite their religion, colour, sex or creed. It’s still a difficult subject – ‘interfaith dating’ ‘multicultural dating’ ‘interracial dating’ – whatever you chose to call it. Somedays I feel sad when I hear about another interfaith marriage protests or negativity in the media about this topic. I feel sad when I go through tough days dealing with family or communities in my personal life. These days don’t come often. Mainly it’s getting better and these stories are social proof that change is happening.
I believe that the more multicultural marriages and interfaith marriages we have – the more accepting it will become. One day I hope people won’t even bat an eyelid and treat them as the norm. (I feel the same way about same-sex marriages too). The people who disagree with them, have a right to their opinion, and some people you can’t change. I understand that. If they disagree with the marriage because one partner doesn’t belong to that faith or culture, then teach them.
Welcome them with open arms and teach them about the faith and traditions you’re proud of. Don’t push them away and protest against the marriage. That doesn’t achieve anything and gives the religion and culture a bad name. Inviting that individual in and introducing them to your faith will mean that they’re more likely to want to learn more and accept it.
Starting Secret Wedding Blog in my old bedroom, not knowing of how it would develop, was one of the best decisions I made. Sure the blog can come across as quite intense, in terms of the stories I share (positive and negative experiences from real-life couples). It’s not just a wedding blog with pretty photography. It has a purpose, which you’ve probably read, to help and inspire those going through the same thing.
The endless emails from couples and individuals asking for help, sharing their stories and thanking me for the blog is just simply the best feeling. I’m HELPING people! Little Raj, from a small town in Cambridgeshire, reaching thousands and thousands of people from across the world. Knowing that I’ve helped and inspired just one of my readers was my goal, for that I am proud. People often ask me how long I’ll carrying on blogging for. I haven’t an answer for that. I still have to inspire many more people. My work is not done and I hope you’ll continue to join me on my journey.
I am always looking to share interfaith or multicultural stories on the blog, find out what I’m after here. In addition to this, I also would love to share your wedding in my real weddings section, check out the submissions page to find out more.
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